The story about the art of solitude

Wanderer Above the Sea of Fog (1817), Caspar David Friedrich

Recently I have come across eight lessons from The Art of Being Alone by Renuka Gavrani. Some of them sound convincing while the others seem to be much far-fetched. Look at them as you never know how loneliness can touched you or if you will be able to spot the benefits that being alone can bring.  

1. Embrace Solitude as Self-Care

Gavrani emphasizes that solitude should be viewed as an essential form of self-care. Being alone allows for emotional and mental recharge, leading to a deeper understanding of oneself and fostering personal growth.

2. Build a Strong Relationship with Yourself

Learning to enjoy your own company is vital. The book encourages readers to cultivate a strong, compassionate relationship with themselves, which lays the foundation for healthier relationships with others.

3. Silence as a Tool for Reflection

Silence is powerful in helping us listen to our inner voice. Gavrani suggests that by embracing silence, we open ourselves up to introspection and a clearer understanding of our thoughts and emotions.

4. Aloneness vs. Loneliness

Gavrani distinguishes between being alone and feeling lonely. Aloneness is a conscious choice for self-discovery and peace, while loneliness stems from a lack of connection. By appreciating time alone, we can reduce feelings of loneliness.

5. Use Alone Time for Creativity and Productivity

Solitude can be a productive space for creativity. Without distractions, you can focus on creative pursuits, hobbies, or self-improvement, finding inspiration in stillness.

6. Set Boundaries for Social Interactions

The book emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries in relationships to protect your energy. Gavrani encourages readers to balance social engagements with moments of solitude to maintain emotional well-being.

7. Find Joy in Simple Activities

Gavrani highlights the importance of finding joy in small, simple activities when alone, such as reading, walking, or journaling. These activities can bring peace and contentment without the need for external validation.

8. Develop Emotional Independence

One of the key lessons is to cultivate emotional independence. The book stresses that you don’t need to rely on others for happiness.

What??? To tell the truth, I completely disagree with the last statement. I think that emotional independence doesn't depend on being alone or with people around. Look at the lonely man from Van Gogh painting.   

Sorrowing old man (“At Eternity’s Gate”) (1890), Vincent Van Gogh

In my humble opinion :) relations are so impotant for a happy life although being with close people around isn't always easy.

One Christmas many years ago I watched the movie "Into the wild". The film was so moving that I still remember some wise words the main character discovers at the end ...